Connector for releasably attaching two fluid transfer lines, includes a flow connector with a first and second connector assemblies (3, 6) each having a fluid passage, a valve rotatably seated in the passage for opening or closing off the fluid passage. The flow connector also including a normal connection/disconnection system and an emergency disconnection system both located at the same interface and each one having its own dedicated actuating system characterized in that the flow connector is combined with a structural disconnectable load diverter (11, 4, 59) diverting the loads and moments created by the transfer line (2) away from the valves and the flow connector.