A method and apparatus for sending messages to a list of members of a group with exceptions to one or more members of the group. In one embodiment, the method comprising creating an electronic mail (email) message having an email address corresponding to a group of email addresses and including a specification of one or more email addresses of the group that is not to be sent the email message, without knowledge of addresses of all members of the group, and sending the email message for delivery to a mail host for the group address.