The invention provides an intelligent household electrical appliance control device, method and system. The method comprises the steps of: receiving externally input user information by a client; generating an electronic device identity card for an intelligent household electrical appliance based on an NFC (Near Field Communication) card and in combination with external control and user information; when an information storage chip in the intelligent household electrical appliance is close to the NFC card, reading device identity information and controllable attribute information of the intelligent household electrical appliance in the information storage chip; sending the user information and the device identity information to a server; receiving binding information which is sent by the server and is used for identifying that the user information and the device identity information are bound successfully; writing the binding information into the electronic device identity card; sending the controllable attribute information to the server; receiving a notification of successful network distribution of the intelligent household electrical appliance returned by the server; and receiving an externally input control instruction, and sending the binding information and the control instruction to the intelligent household electrical appliance, so that the intelligent household electrical appliance executes the control instruction. According to the invention, the intelligent household electrical appliance can be controlled more simply and quickly.